Stress in today’s world is considered common because of how fast the world’s developing. But with this development, teenagers seem like the most affected of all.
With the internet exposing everything and with how some people online is not being sensitive around this matter, depression and anxiety are far from the edge.
Parenting is one of the things in this world that you can’t be prepared for because it differs from one parent and child to another. Each person’s life can be changed by a simple action.
However, that doesn’t imply that parents can’t do any better. If the world is altered, then we should expect that the children are as well. As a matter of fact, they are the ones who carry the alteration.
Below, we’re going to look at the things that teenagers stress about. This post is mainly for parents who feel like they don’t understand their kids.
1. Parents don’t listen
Kids are raised with the help of their parents or guardians. But with all the talking that parents have done, have they ever listen to their kids?
Sometimes, with a simple “Mom, my stomach hurts”, parents might think that their children are lying, but if the child insists and they’ll go to the doctor, the child’s stomach is indeed hurting.
In some cases, the child might also be lying too, but why do you think they did it? As a matter of fact, children are more honest than adults. So it is rare for children to lie.
For teenagers, however, it’ll depend more on how you raised them. Parents who are so strict tend to raise a child who’ll likely lie to them easily compared to those their parents listened to them while they were young.
It is then crucial for parents to listen to the young because it develops trust to each other so that when the child does something, they won’t be afraid to tell you because they know that you’re there to help rather than be their enemy.
Parents incline themselves to be always right, which is debatable, especially if it’s the child’s decision. It is important to talk to them about it rather than forcing yourself to be perfect.
2. Not Talking Calmly
There are many reasons for parents to be mad at their child, almost every second they would make a mistake and most parents resort to shouting and sometimes even spanking them.
Since parents have already resorted to violence, do you think that the child would be honest to say what happened or would they just keep it for themselves?
Kids who were exposed to violence on a younger age tend to be violent too when they grew up. These kids are mostly the ones who won’t love their parents much or will end up not missing them.
Since childhood and adolescence are basically the tutorials of life, it will be natural to make mistakes and forgiveness and understanding are what kids need most on this time.
Children who are not understood by their parents end up rebelling and you’ll be surprised by why parents would ask about this. If parents won’t give freedom to their child, they will do it themselves.
3. Being “the boss”
Every juvenile has their things to do too especially teens and sometimes parents are being so bossy that it gets annoying.
Teens need to discover some things by themselves but being confined with their parents, then they won’t be able to explore and learn. Later the parents would question why their kids aren’t so social.
Teens online said that their parents are also one of the sources of their depression and anxiety without the parents even noticing. That’s why communication is vital for any relationship to work.
Children are not a parent’s slave, they never were. They didn’t ask to be born in this world, but at least let them know that it’s worth living. Parents are ought to be the ones who inspire and motivate their children.
It also lowers self-confidence if kids grew up knowing that they can’t decide for themselves. Later on their life, they could be assaulted without them discerning that it is assaulting because they grew up knowing that it’s common for people to step down on them.
4. Not Being Supportive
Parents know what’s best for their children and they know their children better than anyone else. Exactly. Use your parent’s intuition to support your child. With you being there or agreeing with them, you’re involved to what they’re into.
Otherwise, kids would probably still do the things that they love but without their parents knowing. If parents think that something won’t benefit their child, then talk them out of it and don’t just oppose promptly.
There are no other people in this world who should be supporting a child with everything that they’ll do other than the parents.
Parents who support their child’s decisions in life don’t only develop stronger relationships with their child but also would raise a confident individual.
5. Child’s Relationship with other people
Kids don’t only have a relationship with their parents, they have friends, classmates, boyfriend/girlfriend, bandmates, and more other people in their life.
Parents need to learn to give their children freedom and guidance when it comes to relationships. It’s useless to prevent them from having any relationship with anyone because that’s how life works. We live by having relationships with other people.
As the old phrase goes, “No man is an island”. We need to know that people learn whenever they make mistakes, but by guiding the kids thoroughly on what is right and wrong, these mistakes could be lessened.
You’ll only be the antagonist on your kid’s life if you try to interfere with their relationships. Of course, there’s a proper age for every relationship, that’s why parent’s supervision is the most needed in these circumstances.
So the bottom line of this is that parents don’t need to contain their children on a cage but rather let them roam around with guidance. In that way, you will build a strong parent-child relationship and they will learn more in life without having to resent you.